God and Divorce

On Sunday I’ll be preaching on the topic of divorce. A couple of days ago I wrote the following paragraph – thinking it would be my introduction. It’s now become the outline for my message.

“In the book of Malachi the prophet speaks God’s words and says, “I hate divorce!” (Mal 2:16, NIV) As do all of us I would imagine!

I hate the pain of seeing friends breakup. I hate it when one of them wants to stay in the marriage and the other is resolute that that can never happen. I hate it when a couple is too weak or wounded or tired to try anymore. I hate hearing about it when it’s too late. I hate it when couples forget what they once knew and felt. I hate it when they ‘relationally divorce’ – separate, lose all intimacy, become apathetic or contemptuous toward one another – but stay married. I hate it when people operate with such a narrow definition of love, as though it were just a feeling. I hate seeing what happens to kids when divorce happens. I hate the anger, the vitriol, all the money spent in court, the emotional cost that is paid, the dreams shattered, the hopes abandoned, the hearts torn and how God’s good gift of marriage – what he made to communally image him; a beautiful, synergistic, foreshadowing intimacy – is destroyed!

No one ever gets married ever imagining or planning for the pain of divorce.

Thank God that he has the restorative solution for all relationally broken souls. A solution that can save a marriage if that’s where your relationship is at. Or a solution that can heal you if you gone through a divorce. God he sees all the small things that are leading to the big breakup. And his heart is torn. God hates divorce.”

“Then I saw “a new heaven and a new earth,”for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and there was no longer any sea. I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband.” Rev 21:1-2, NIV

2 thoughts on “God and Divorce

  1. Robert Pijper

    Reminds me of one of my favorite sermons of Bill Veenstra which I remember as "Stick with the one you're stuck with": not to the point where you tolerate an abusive or harmful relationship, but at least to the point where you occasionally get on each other's nerves.

    Also reminds me of the Billy Joel song "Ain't no Crime":

    Well now you tell me you love somebody
    And you'll love 'em forever
    You may love 'em forever
    But you won't like 'em all of the time
    Well now you tell me you need somebody for the rest of your life
    You might have somebody
    But you won't want 'em everyday

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